The End Is Where We Start.

"What we call the beginning is often the end. And to make an end is to make a beginning. The end is where we start from." T. S. Eliot

Has a loving relationship come to an end? Has a long-lasting friendship ended all of a sudden? We can spend a long time wondering why this has happened. I have been doing that for a long time, but the time has come now to say goodbye! Because, no matter what, I will never know why it failed or what happened. This is one of those things; one has to pass through like adolescence.

We can tell ourselves that we won’t take another step until we find out why certain things that were so important and so solid in our lives have turned into dust, just like that. This will be a foolish thing to do, take it from me. I have suffered much because I have refused to move on. That kind of attitude is stressful for everyone involved.  Everyone is finishing chapters, turning over new leaves, getting on with life, and they will all feel bad seeing us at a standstill. Not only people feel bad for us, but sometimes we will also affect their progress and they will resent us for it. In the long run, we will resent and hate ourselves for the humiliation we put ourselves through. It just does not worth it. Besides, we do not start a new chapter in our lives if we don't close the previous one properly.

However, we have to know how we close that door influences how we open the new door.  Since we have no way of knowing if we may or may not have to go through that door again, we have to close it with grace and forgiveness. Resentment is poisonous to our memories and attitudes; it would destroy us from within. It is said 'There is three sides to a story, yours, mine and the truth." The fault, if there is any, might be ours as well as theirs.  Only God knows the truth, so le us leave that to Him. When He said it is time to let go, we have to let go. We would grieve our losses, but we don't need to get stuck in the past. Ending brings new beginnings. It's all right to acknowledge the past and learn from it, but when God shuts the door, it is time to move into the future He's prepared for us.

Most of the time it is hard to know what God has in store for us and it is alright to ask Him. It is OK to ask God for our own dream! However, our dreams can't be born out of wrong motives such as pride, jealousy, anger, rejection or competitiveness. Before we go after our dreams we need to ask ourselves why we want that particular dream. Is it because we trying to prove something to somebody? Is it because we are we trying to win their admiration and respect? Is it because we are trying to make up for being rejected? We need to acknowledge our motives and ask God to heal our hearts, then ask Him for a dream that He can back up!