Being honest and genuine is often the key to a strong relationship.

It's generally best not to play games in the relationship. Being honest and genuine is often the key to a strong relationship. In that respect, you shouldn't be worried about how you come across, but rather how you feel. Don't worry about coming on too strong, but rather if he or she is looking for the same thing in a relationship as you are. You may be looking for a long and committed relationship, which may not be the same thing, he or she is pursuing. He or she could be looking just to have some fun or even just someone to hang out with sometime. You may be thinking of this relationship as a lot more long term than he or she is which often is a barrier to deeper feelings of intimacy for one or both of you. 

If he or she is not looking for the same thing as you, it could spell bad news for the relationship. The best solution is to simply bring it up and be able to talk about it. Bringing things up in a calm and casual manner can make it a lot easier to deal with. You'd be surprised how easy it is to make even the most silent relationship into one which encourages open conversation simply by bringing up the subject. A lot of people are just unwilling to bring up the status of the relationship but would be glad to talk about an otherwise confusing situation. Don't be afraid to start a chat calmly and comfortably.

If you decide, either through conversation or through the way he or she is treating you, you two have different purposes in mind, there is another possible solution. This solution is to end the relationship. It's far better to end a bad relationship early rather than carry it through and prolongs not only the damage it is causing you but also the trouble that will be created when you end it. This is a step a lot of people don't want to take but can end up being necessary. It's dramatic, and it might be necessary if you find he or she ends up not returning the same deep feelings that you have for him or her.

There is another important possibility, which is simply that he or she isn't as open about his or her affections. Some people don't like to show their affection. They may only like to do it in private or perhaps never even mention it, or even find other ways of expressing themselves. Alternatively, he or she may be slow in developing these feelings. Either way doesn't necessarily mean he or she doesn't have the same feelings you do. If your relationship is relatively young it might be best to wait it out.

Only you know how you two do in private and how you relate to each other. The best place to determine where you are is still to bring it up. If he or she isn't open about his or her affections, or is looking for something else, then you can find out by starting the discussion. Then you can figure out where you are from there. Good luck.