The best way to get the love we want is to ask for it, yet, this process of opening up is one of vulnerability and therefore scary, it is also the very experience that allows us to develop an exquisite #closeness with the people we love. I get it, it is catch 22!
If we don't ask, the chance of getting what we want is close to zero. They are not mind readers. So, in order to receive love, we have to ask for it. And we need to communicate what we please and displease us. We need to know what love consists of. Just holding a vague hope that we would get loved is not enough. Our experiencing of love is very specific. If we share what kind of expression of #love we need to feel loved, then our loved ones will be able to provide us with the kind of love that speaks to us.
So, today, try to find out what we mean when we tell our #beloved 'I need your love.' Do we want them to like us, to' love' us, think we are great, to find us better than others, to find us cute, to say we are lovely, to say we are wise, do we want them to think we are sexy, do we want them think that we are young and/or mature, do we want them to say we are #beautiful, do we want them to give us their approval, do we want them to appreciate us, to hold us, to express their #affection in a physical way, do we want them to search for us, do we want them to tell us we are wonderful, do we want them to think we are #sensual, #witty, #articulate strong, #vulnerable, funny, do we want them to be consistent,# loyal, #trustworthy, keep their words, patience, do we want them to have an impact in our lives, do we want them to give up a bad habit for us, do we want them to encourage us one way or the other, do we want them to share their daily lives with us, etc
Once they tell us what they want us to do for them to make them feel loved, we need to comply. Every #relationship requires a certain amount of re-configuring to conform to or complement the needs, desires, and circumstances of the person to whom we are related. We might not like to do this and we might become resentful when we are forced to do it, the truth is, if we want to stay in that relationship, we have to do it. #Compromising is if we realize that the very fact of setting aside our preferences and doing the thing he or she wants is one of the most important ways of loving one another. So indulge one another, this is not a losing ground; it is loving.
Nothing in life is as important as the love you need, feel, give, and receive. No accomplishment can ever match it. No tragedies ever displace it; no adventure however grand or #captivating will ever equal its immense power in our lives. Love is bigger than sorrow and longer than time. Love is larger than life. So, don't let insecurity or pride stop you from expressing it or from asking for it.
Let us all love and be loved.
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