He had me from 'you are beautiful.'

Some of you asked me if I have any success on Internet dating, for a long time I did not. I had met men I liked and enjoyed chatting with but it never went further than that - mostly because of geography. There was one man, a friend of a friend whom I met over the phone a year or so ago. My friend introduced us over the phone because we had some mutual friends. Since then, we have been emailing and talking to each other over the phone. As we get to know each other, we realized we have more in common than our mutual friends. All these time, I had known him, we have flirted with each other occasionally but I never thought of him as a romantic partner. As far as I was concerned, we were just virtual friends. And when he suggested that he was going to be around my area and wants to meet for coffee and conversation, I was happy and excited.

We had never exchanged pictures with mutual agreements. Yet, when he walked through that door, I knew it was him. When I waved, a giant grin filled his face. He walked toward me, his arms extended for a hug. I embraced the invitation! Then he looked at me and said: "You are beautiful." I actually believed him. What a great start!

He was medium height, well dressed, and nice looking. As the evening progressed, I learned he was funny, intelligent, thoughtful, attentive, chivalrous, insightful, accomplished, HUMBLE and well educated. Did I mention VERY FUNNY?

We laughed, smiled and shared. We got so engrossed in each other we forgot the time. He asks and waited for my permission before he reached over and took my hand, what a gentleman? Then he moved it to the back of my neck, which he tenderly stroked. We walked out of the Cafe hand in hand. I was so giddy, I felt like a girl with her first crush.

He asked if I wanted to have dinner. I did. While we stood in a corner waiting for the table to be cleared, he gently kissed me. Nothing hot and heavy, just a sweet kiss. At the table, he sat in the chair next to me. We held hands throughout dinner.

He told me he liked my smile. He also said, based on some of my comments, it seemed I wasn’t completely happy with the shape of my body. I said yes, that was true. He said "I love your body. Your body is perfect the way it is." I wanted to elope with him right then.

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We were the last couple to leave the restaurant. As we walk down the street, we listened to the band playing outside. As we swayed to the music he slipped his arm around me and holds me tight. Let me tell you, I did not want him to let me go ever.

He walked me to my place, opening my door, and then we lingered in a sweet kiss. He was a gentleman and didn’t try to take liberties beyond a kiss. And a great kisser he was! We parted with a promise he’d call the next day. Which he did yesterday.

What set the mood for the night was the first respond and tone. You could say he was flattering me, he could be, but it worked. It opened me up. As Mae West said 'Too much of the good thing can be wonderful,' in this case I agree. I will give you an update if he is going to be prince charming or Mr...?

Whatever the outcome would be for us, my advice to everyone including myself is this. Being single is better than being part of a couple but miserable. Finding love should not be a mission or a second job, however, don't stop searching.

Search for the man who isn’t pretentious. A man who takes life slowly and live it with simplicity. A man with a sense of humor. Someone who will chuckle your woes away. A man who is gentle with you even when he is angry. A man who isn’t scared to say I love you. A man who is willing to communicate with you openly. Attitude is everything. 

Stay away from Mr. Attitude, Mr. Iknowitall, Mr. Hitandrun, Mr. Jerk, Mr. Cheater and Mr. Liar.

Good Hunting!!!