Love is a trick master.

If one person really wants us, everyone does. But, if we’re alone, we become even more alone. Life is strange.

I don't know if you agree with me or not but I believe that love is a trap.  When it approaches you, it shows you only the light not the shadow.  Love is a trick master, it is the master of illusions – it make you see what it wants you to see; light instead shadows.  Love comes with a lofty price, if you are not willing to pay, stay away. And you would not know what the price is until you are in the middle of it all.   The problem is, when love calls us by name and asks us to give it one more try, no matter how many times we have been hurt, we go back to it willingly.  

Don't get me wrong,, regardless of how many times  we love - once, twice or a dozen times -  in our lives, we always face a brand-new situation, because love is always new. Love either sends us to paradise and back or to hell and back, but it always takes us somewhere. We simply have to accept it, because it is what nourishes our existence, our soul.  If we reject it, for whatever reason, we would wither and die of hunger.  We have to take love where we find it, even if it means for hours, days, weeks of disappointments, sadness, joy and happiness.

Love inspires us to do great, stupid, beautiful and weird stuff. That is because when we love, our reason become distorted and we discover the paradox of love. Suddenly, we know exactly what we want, but we suffer from indecision. The fact that someone loves us means we feel more self-affirmed than ever before, and yet, we are sick with self-doubt and insecurities. Though it is wonderful in so many ways, loving someone can be very unsettling experience

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We dream about them constantly. In fact, the only time we really are awake is when they are approaching us. Unfortunately, at that exact moment our body turns to putty. We try to stay calm and composed, trying to present a picture of charisma & confidence. The day drags along, we make thousands of plans, we imagine every possible conversation, we promise to change our behavior in certain ways – and we feel more and more anxious until our loved one arrives. But by then, we don’t know what to say. The hours of waiting have been transformed into tension, the tension has become fear, and the fear makes us embarrassed about showing affection. All those breathless secrets in our heart that we rehearsed a thousand times and now ready to share gently with a tender ear, we suddenly blurt out, sounding like a race caller from an ancient civilization. We fail to present what we want our beloved to see.

 We fail, mostly, because we stop to ask question about love. Questions about love make us fearful.  I am talking about an incomprehensible fear; it’s difficult even to describe it. For the most part the fear is an illusion that we created out of thin air – it is the fear of being scorned, of not being accepted, of being hurt, of being rejected , of  potential lovers who turn out to be evil or of breaking the spell, yet we became prisoner of it.  It’s ridiculous, but that’s the way it is. That’s why, when it comes to love, we should not ask- we should take a calculated risk and act on it.  

The truth is love is always beautiful but it is not perfect. At the beginning, love is beyond wonderful. Each moment together is magical. We walk in perpetual sunshine, with our feet few inches above the ground. Loving is an exquisite but complex coming together of two different people – different background, family, religion, country, etc. So it is going to have ups and downs. Love would help us iron out the wrinkle from our relationship, but it would not make it go away by magic.  There would be similarities as well as slight differences with our loved ones. These differences would keep our love fresh and exciting, even though sometimes we might feel as if we came from two different galaxies.

Even the most loving couples don't agree on everything, we learn to compromise and to accept each other. One person is up, when the other is down. One wants to cuddle, the other wants to be left alone. A simple conversation can break down because of carless and cutting remarks.  Take a little misunderstanding, plus poor communication, with some emotional baggage from previous relationship, the relationship would falter. The bottom line is that love requires genuine effort.  It takes more than cuddling, kissing, flowers to get things right in the relationship. Sometimes an apology, in word or deed, can restore the peace and the joy in a relationship.

No one is made to fit another automatically.  If we are lucky enough to find someone to love, then both of us need to work on it until we fit together. If we are in a relationship with the right person, our own personality would flourish. We still get to do the things we love but now we get to enjoy it with someone special. We would get to enjoy the feeling that there is someone who would be there for us whenever and whatever. Someone we can discuss and share our dreams and fears with knowing it is safe.

Love gives us the freedom to test the boundaries of our weaknesses, knowing that there is someone out there who would be there for us. To have that kind of love, that kind of person in our lives is to know that every breath affirms that we are loved. Is it not strange that the love of one person brings such a change in us? Strange as it maybe it is true. Once we love and are loved, the world and everything in it looks different, it becomes the most amazing and beautiful place to be in. Going back to what I said earlier that love is a master of illusion, is the world and everything in it truly amazing and beautiful or is it just our perception?  I would leave the answer to you.

Dean Martin seems to agree with me with his song ' That's Amore' Enjoy!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hS2yypBofNA