Check your ego with your coat :)

Long time ago, I went out with a man who was full of himself. Let me tell you, if he was, any more, full of himself, I would have had to get us a table for three instead of two, just so his ego would not have to stand. This man has no shame, he talked about himself the whole night (I am not exaggerating) and when he took a break, he has a nerve to turn to me and ask me what do I think of him? I don't think there was anything he did not tell me about his finances (he gave me a list of his assets and incomes as if I work for IRS and he is being audited.) I did not get a chance to give him an answer because he continues to enlighten me about how great he was. But in my mind, I was saying to him 'You want to know what I think? I think, you either have more money than brain or you are in a debt up to your eyeball. To make a long story short, I excused myself to go to the ladies room, gave the money to the waiter for our drinks, wrote him a note saying I had an emergency and I have to go and run as fast as my legs could take me.

 I know that was not a nice, that was not how I was raised, but, I could not find any polite way to get out of the situation at that time and I was not about to spend the rest of my evening listening about his greatness. After the incident, he and his cousin (who sets us up) did not talk to me for a couple of years. 

Today, I run into the person and we had a big laugh about it. Is not it funny, how time put things in perspective? I was telling him about the lesson I have learned from that experience and he was telling me what he has learned too. Apparently, his cousin, after talking to me has gone and told him everything I have said J Obviously, time has changed both of us and time also have thought us some lessons and here they are. (Since both of us are still single, take my advice in stride.)

• Just because someone ask us out that does not mean we should accept.
• And no matter what, please let us not spend our time together talking about our greatness, healthy self appreciation is good but when we over do it, it turn the other person off. Check your ego at the door with your coat. 
• If we want meaningful relationship, committed partner then we need to stay in a relationship Highway, and quite going down does-not- call- me- back road, better-than - nothing deadened street, and isn't- much-but-he-is-mine detour.
• We should be honest with ourselves as well as with our dates/partners about our feelings. I don't mean to say we should pour our hearts out on our first date, but if we don't want to have another date we should say so – with kindness. If we want to see them we should say so too.
• I know, to some extent, dating (even life) is a game but I don't believe playing with a person's attention or/and affection is right.

It might be a cliché to say life is too short but that is the truth which needs repeating.  We will not be here forever. So, we should be thoughtful and kind to each other, instead of being crabby, surly, short tempered, cocky, sarcastic, critical, and condescending.

Last but not least, don't be like me. Don't hurt someone like that just because you don't have the guts to face the issue. At the end of the day, we are all responsible for our actions and as they say "Karma is a ..."