Do not make man the center of your universe: Relax and enjoy your singledom!

Thinking about your biological clock ticking can ruin your life. Many middle age single women are stressed out thinking that they are running of time and age. They seem to walk in life unhappy with negative vibes and fear that they won’t find EVER Mr. wonderful!! Some women even put a time limit in their mind “Before I turn on 45 or hit my 50 I must find Mr. Right or I’ll never find him”!!!

 What the heck is this kind of life .Aren’t we already stressed in our life and jobs to add on top of all this more stress searching for a man!

Why this process of fishing for a man should be so stressful, instead of enjoying the present of being single! It’s a state of mind and these negative thoughts will never let you find love. You tend to sabotage your chances for getting what you want more.

You’ll be surprised to know that men can sense it loud and clear .Ask a guy about his top complaint about single middle aged women and he’ll invariably point to the biological clock.

There‘s a million and one ways our biological clocks prematurely reveal our urgency to settle down.

Have a look at celebrities magazine you will realize that many celebrities like Salma Hayak, Julia Roberts and even Geena Davis (who had twins at 48)these women don’t base their whole life on the biological clock .

Now the cover of TV guide and mademoiselle spots from Ally Mc Beal to sex and the city ,a spot light began to shine of middle aged beautiful women and ‘Happy Singles’.

I’m single, there’s nothing wrong with wanting to be in a loving relationship. I said WANTING  not NEEDING, there’s a big difference .I tend to see it as a temporary state ,a sometimes fun, sometimes lonely rest stop to the next relationship .It doesn’t get that bad to feel lonely to settle for any man .

I value my friends, my family and I don't worry about it that much. There's a lot of women out there in the same boat.

My neighbor ‘my age’ met the man of her life when she went to take the garbage out ;-).

I always remind myself that I’m a fulfilled person –stable functional and happy.

Always remind yourself that you are perfectly capable of living with or without a man .Neither men or women are empty vessels needed to be filled or needy leeches waiting to be rescued …..Am I right?

Relax take things slow, maintain your self respect and don’t make a man the center of your universe. Ask yourself what’s your objective of dating. Is it because you need someone to talk and do things with? Is it to find someone to marry or fulfill sexual needs? What type of relationship you want, companion with commitment? A long term or short term? Once you know what you want it gives you a clear objective and eliminates unnecessary time spent that have nothing to do with your objective.

Knowing also if you’re ready to date is as important as why .So take it easy, be happy.

The future comes one day at a time!!!