Change is inevitable, acceptance is a choice.

Uncertainty is the price we pay for whatever we wish for in life. Unless we let go of what we are holding, we would not be able to take anything new. Change is one constant beside death, whether we want it or not it would happen, but acceptance makes a big difference. It would make change a gift to be cherished rather than a punishment we have to tolerate.

“Rejection is protection and redirection.” - Earl Purdy

I find comfort knowing that there’s always more than one way of looking at any situation. When we're rejected, we have a tendency to go straight for a fearful idea, such as, “I’m not good enough.” But we can just as easily choose the opposite. We can choose to see the rejection as a positive thing.

“Life is simple. Everything happens for you, not to you. Everything happens at exactly the right moment, neither too soon nor too late. You don't have to like it... it's just easier if you do.” – Byron Katie

This is a major perceptual shift from playing the victim card to owning your personal power. When we start to use our power instead of giving it away, we’re capable of miracles. Miracles are shifts in perception from fear to love.

“Getting over a painful experience is much like crossing monkey bars. You have to let go at some point in order to move forward.” – C. S. Lewis

Willingness to forgive someone, even if that someone is you is all it takes to create healing. Start with a simple mantra, with simple step - every morning and night say, “I am willing to forgive.” Sooner or later, you start to forgive.

“It’s not about 'what can I accomplish?' but 'what do I want to accomplish?' Paradigm shift.” – Brene Brown

When everything seemingly falls apart, it’s more important than ever to get clear on the direction we want to go in as we move forward. We should focus on how we want to feel in every area of life and then start doing activities that create those desired feelings. This is about us. What do we want to accomplish?

“The object isn’t to make art, it’s to be in that wonderful state which makes art inevitable.” – Robert Henri

Any time I have started new jobs, ended relationships or joined new activities, those feelings of anxiety and doubt seemed to crop up. There’s nothing “spiritual” or “positive” about hiding our feelings. Instead, it’s very important to feel our feelings in a constructive way. For me that’s blogging, journal writing, reading and hiking.  The point is to feel our feelings and express ourselves as we forgive, set new directions and move forward.

“When you dance, your purpose is not to get to a certain place on the floor. It's to enjoy each step along the way.” - Wayne Dyer

Any time I feel uncertain about life or want to try something new, my go-to reaction is to immediately try and control everything in an attempt to create some sense of order in my life. I want to see the whole path and know for certain that each decision is "right" before I take action. With this mentality, I spent years thinking about doing things, but never actually taking the necessary steps to create the life I dreamed of. Instead, just try taking one step and trust that when we need it, the next step will be revealed. In truth, there's no certainty.

“Expectation is the mother of all frustration.” – Antonio Banderas

When we have tons of expectations for what should happen in the future and how people should act, we set ourselves up for judgment and disappointment. Speaking of judgment…

“The highest spiritual practice is self-observation without judgment.” – Swami Kripalu

We tend to be our own worst critic. As we are making life changes, it’s more important than ever to be gentle with ourselves and not head into fear-land by thinking about all the things we should have and could have done by now. We are exactly where we need to be, remember?

“Nobody can give you wiser advice than yourself.” - Cicero

We often let our actions be directed by the opinions of others. We seek approval outside ourselves, and as a result, lose touch of our own likes, dislikes and desires. Each of us has our own internal guidance showing us the way through the confusion. Those buried passions and the strong desire to create something are coming from your Inner Guide.

“The more scared we are of a work or calling, the more sure we can be that we have to do it.” – Steven Pressfield

In my opinion, not taking a risk is worst than taking a risk - if that can make sense to you. The “it” in this case might be quitting the job, speaking our mind, admitting our feelings to someone, finally walking away from an unhealthy relationship, saying no, or going all in on our new business plan. We always have an inner guidance system that we can tap into at any moment through prayer, meditation and listening. With that guidance, there’s nothing to fear.

One thing I know for sure is that we learn about ourselves through new experiences. So whatever the ending and new beginning is for us right now, we should allow ourselves to be swept away by the sweet freedom that comes with it. Growth is around the corner.