What the caterpillar calls the end of the world, the master calls a butterfly.

Sometimes, it comes a point in our lives when we have to think what we are doing and where we are heading. When happiness fades, we either try to polish and get ride of the tarnish or we need to look for new beginnings. When love dies, we need to step away and carve out the dead feelings.

I know, how difficult it is to let go off anyone or anything. We are a creature of habits, we get attached, we get our holds on it or them and don't want to let go. The saying 'if you love someone set it free, if it comes back it is yours, if it does not it never was' is baloney. If we look at it from practical and intellectual point of view, it works, however, our heart does not really gives a shit one way or another.  After spending so much time with someone,  it hurts to let go. It hurts even more to know something which meant so much to us, meant so little to the other person. It is humiliating to know that we have been coned. As painful as letting you is, it is even more painful to stay in a relationship after it dies. If we don't, the same inevitable parting will confront us and make it even harder for us to recover and find that elusive happiness and peace of mind that we so diligently seek.

No matter how long or short the relationship has been, no matter who or what ended it, it helps for us to remember that we have had our fair share of happiness. Let that be the memories that will stay with us as we go our separate ways. Clinging to a dead relationship  will only leave us with more bitter recollections that will overwhelm and overshadow the happier times that we once shared. And that would not serve either party well.  Once the love is gone, once the magic feeling is gone, the only thing left is indifference and pain. 
We all deserve love and happiness. We deserve someone who can love and cherish us. None of us deserve to beg for love and attention, none of us should beg and depend on crumbs from a dying feeling which is better left buried.

If we don't love the person anymore, we should be honest with them as well as with ourselves. I know, sometimes,that is tricky. It is not easy to know our feelings in any given moment - sometimes we are just upset at, or angry at, or hurt by our partner and vice verse but that does not mean we want to end the relationship or we don't love them any more.  However, after a while, if we know for sure that we don't want to be in that relationship any more, then we should leave. My experience is that once it is dead, no amount of loving, sexing, begging, bending backward and forward is going to change the situation. 

Sometimes, even if we are the ones who initiate the break-up, it doesn't mean our hearts don't hurt. But as people say time heals all wounds. So, give it some time and the hurt will gradually lessen.

The end is often scary but only if we don't be able to imagine the new. As Richard Bach said “What the caterpillar calls the end of the world, the master calls a butterfly.”