Love: Should it come with a warning sign?

Wouldn't it be nice if love came with a warning label, kind of like mattresses or cigarette cartons do? If we think about it, love can be just as dangerous as flammable, as addictive, or otherwise warning-worthy products.  All we have to do is, look back and think about what we have done and gone through for love.

In the name of love we have been rejected, dejected, bitter and insecure. We have convinced ourselves we were in it and we have moved from place to place in order to avoid it. We have fallen for people, who were married, in relationships, emotionally-stunted, emotionally unavailable, that we have kissed or not kissed, for people that have never known the depth of our feelings. We have done things we thought would fill a void we didn’t know we had.

Love is a fierce competitor. When it’s wrong, it aims to suck the focus from our lives. When it’s right, it aims to fill in the gaps of all the happiness we hadn’t found before. Love is a union of everything that exists in our head concerning the topics of romance and mutual respect. It’s an untainted, unvarnished mirror that is held up to us constantly, exposing the flaws, imperfections and perfections that have otherwise been overlooked or pushed deep within ourselves.  When it breaks our heart, it cracks us up in a way that we can’t fathom until we're in the middle of it, fully knowing that even if there was an escape route, we wouldn’t take it.

We go out looking for love with a heart packed with deep yearnings and longing. And set out with a determination that was unequaled by any we had ever felt before. Something, an invisible hand, a force stronger than us was not just leading us but was throwing us at it, taunting us with the worrisome idea that if we didn’t go, we would wander the rest of our lives being unhappy, that we would suffer a fate worse than any we can ever imagine.

The road to #love can be a #battlefield that may leave us #defenseless and #vulnerable in potentially #hostile territory. In fact, the land of love and intimacy can be full of landmines that it becomes scary. It might take us longer than we expected before we realized and abandon that invisible force which was leading us #blindly to our demises. The path to return to reality sometimes is filled with #despair which is so deep all we want to do is just lye down and die. It is a place where we come to realize what it means to fall in to a bottomless pit. At this point, we might ask ourselves 'How did we get here?' If rock bottom could be any lower, then we feel that is where we are.

Love, is what brought us here? #Love which has eluded us for many years tested our beliefs about ourselves, #striving to understand if we were #inadequate, #undeserving, and #unlovable. Little did we know that, all this time, when we thought the world had been terribly unfair in all our love lives matters, all it was doing was #saving our #fragile little #hearts for this unbelievably pure union, for the real thing? I wonder, if we have seen the warning sign, would we have the #foresight not to go through it?